05.28.09

Focus on the good.

Posted in daily life, local restaurants at 3:08 pm by totaleclipse

So far my efforts to re-focus on health and stability have been successful.  In some ways I’m back to the Month of Moderation situation, where I realize I have a weakness, and I try to strike a balance.  Considering I’ve had a couple long weekends in a row, I think I’ve done okay.  Last week I was good Tuesday through Friday dinner, and this week promises to be the same.  What I’m doing this week is focusing on what makes me feel good, and not on what makes me feel bad.  Because although it’s enjoyable to go out to eat, it always makes me feel bad.  And not in a good way.  But you know what makes me feel good?  Waking up in the morning refreshed and not feeling guilty about the previous evening.  Another thing that makes me feel good is being able to go out to eat on the weekend knowing that I can enjoy it because I’ve already compensated for it.  I’ve earned it.

And frankly, I think Ray might kill me if I didn’t either make a change or shut the hell up.  I’m doing both!

One advantage to the downturn in the economy is that many restaurants are offering recession specials.  This is great news for those of us who are trying to save money by not eating out as much, but still love to eat out.  Omnivore Atlanta came up with a great list recently of many of the specials in the Atlanta area.  Readers of this blog are already well-aware of the Wednesday night $3 slider-fest at The Shed.  Another special which I’ve been wanting to try for months but never got around to is the Sunday night $12 pasta dinner at Shaun’s.  I haven’t been to Shaun’s in a while, not because I don’t like them (because I really do; excellent schnitzel!) but because it’s a little on the pricey side. Their Sunday night special, however, includes a salad, dish of pasta and gelato dessert for $12!  That’s a fantastic value.  I’ve already told Dice that I want to go this coming Sunday.

05.27.09

Lazy weekend.

Posted in daily life at 4:18 pm by totaleclipse

Well, my prediction for the long holiday weekend came true.  Dice and I did very little other than relax, forget about everything and eat a lot of junk food.  Although I beat myself up a little because I also didn’t run or workout very much, it was a nice, relaxing weekend which I sorely needed.  Friday morning I went running in the morning and then went to Flying Biscuit with the Canadians and T&R.  I had the hummus and feta wrap, which sounds kind of boring but was actually phenomenal.  I was worried the hummus and feta would be too mushy together, but there were plenty of veggies and onions in there to crunch it up, and the flavors went really well together.  I was in heaven.  Plus the biscuit was heavenly, but then again I’m a whore for biscuits. When I was in high school I took a cooking class.  The teacher basically read out recipes to us and then let us cook them, so there wasn’t much in the way of learning, but the one thing I took away from that class was a great recipe for buttermilk biscuits.  On cool weekend mornings I’d get up and make a batch and eat them with tons of butter.  And then immediately go back to bed due to food coma.  Good times.

Anyway, M&K have gone off on a long vacation, so we’re helping to watch the wee doggies.  So the rest of the commune had a wee party at M&K’s house on Friday night. We ordered Chinese and ate it family style, shot some pool and watched all four dogs try to kill each other play together.  Some of us were getting up early for various reasons on Saturday so we cleared out soon after 9:00.  Old and boring!  Saturday morning I got up early intending to run but I went down to feed the wee doggies and got caught up in my book and ended up staying for over an hour.  And I didn’t really want to go, anyway.  I spent the rest of the day either reading or watching TV.  In the evening Dice and I took a DVD down to M&K’s and hung out with the doggies.  Sunday morning we had an extra early F1 race so we were out the door before 7:00 am.  It was the Monte Carlo race, which is the big race of the Formula 1 season.  There are usually big stars who go to that race but there weren’t so many this time, which was slightly disappointing.  Then we knocked out our weekly grocery shopping on the way home.  Sunday afternoon I went running, and then afterwards we went to the Brick Store for dinner.  We didn’t order anything new or different so I’ll spare you the redundant details.

Monday I spent almost the entire day over at M&K’s.  I had all four doggie shifts that day, so I spent most of the morning there.  Then I went again around noon, then when I walked back home Dice was all ready to go back to M&K’s to watch Slumdog Millionaire on their big TV. So I turned around and went back again.  Then home again after that, then back down again at 5 to feed to doggies dinner.  Then we went to the Glenwood for an early dinner.  We thought it would be crowded since it was a holiday, but it was almost empty.  We haven’t been there in a while so I really enjoyed the burger I had.  After we got home I went back down to put the doggies in their crates for the night.  So I would guess that I spent 75% of my day there instead of home.

And that’s about it.  Except for the fact that I didn’t run very much, it was a perfect weekend.  I’m committed to running every single day this week, no matter how far it is.  My runs have been horrible lately because I never push myself, which means that my ability goes down and I struggle running the shortest distances.  I can’t run 4 miles without stopping at least once anymore.  It’s frustrating and annoying. Thus: re-committing.

05.21.09

The biggest changes come in little boxes.

Posted in daily life at 2:28 pm by totaleclipse

Speaking of routine, as I did at the end of yesterday’s post, it’s about to get a lot more routine-y around here.  What with all the eating out we did during the past month and then the sudden trip to Boston, our monthly budget is sadly depleted.  This means no eating out, shopping, or pretty much anything fun until June.  I have to say, I’m kind of pleased about this, since I’ve been bewailing my lack of discipline for weeks now.  I wish that I’d had the strength to stop without any outside impetus, but at this point I’ll take what I can get.  Hopefully the new regime will curb my taste for going out to eat every single night.  I’m also hoping to get into cooking a little but.  Just cooking something little every other evening would introduce the habit into my routine.  And I know from past experience that just changing one little thing can lead to changing another little thing, which in turn leads to bigger results.  When I first decided to start eating healthier four years ago, my first decision was to cut out pasta.  At the time I was eating a big bowl of tortellini with butter and salt every night.  I cut that one thing out and lost almost 10 pounds.  Once I got used to that, I started introducing more raw vegetables to my diet.  Just a salad with my dinner.  Which ultimately lead to me now eating 6-8 servings of fruits and vegetables every day.  So hopefully if I introduce minor cooking into my routine, it will stick.  Just a little something every other night or so.  I know how to cook, and I enjoy it sometimes, it’s just difficult when you don’t get home from work until 8:00 pm.

It’s almost Memorial Weekend. I have no plans, mostly because of the aforementioned dearth of funds. However, the one thing I could use more than anything else is a quiet and relaxing weekend at home. So Dice and I are going to rest, relax, forget about funerals and head colds, and probably eat a bunch of junk food. Sounds great, right? No, you’re not invited over.

05.20.09

Funerals are hard, yo.

Posted in family, travel at 3:30 pm by totaleclipse

So my weekend in MA was fine.  Thursday morning I got up at 5:00 am and cleaned the house, then went on a run.  We went to work for half a day, then hopped our plane in the afternoon.  Our connection through Akron was delayed, but they said it would be delayed by three hours, and it ended up only being delayed by one hour, so we were comparatively happy.  Heh. They probably did it on purpose.  Anyway, we made it to Logan, picked up our rental car and made it to Grandma’s around 9:30 pm.

Friday morning I got up early and went running.  Then we spent most of the morning figuring out what sort of food to serve at the funeral the next day.  We had planned just nibbles and beverages, which made the planning much easier. The day turned out to be beautiful, 80 degrees and sunny, and I took a few minutes to walk down to Webster Lake.  Later that afternoon Dice and I went to the grocery store and the package store to pick up the food we would need for the weekend as well as the funeral.  One of my uncles had made two enormous platters of lasagna the night before, so we all had that for dinner.

Saturday started out beautiful, but by early afternoon the clouds rolled in and it got noticeably cooler and started to rain.  The whole family had brunch in the morning together, then carpooled to the cemetery.  The weather got cloudy during the short graveside service.  It was a difficult service for all of us, especially to also see my Aunt Sandy’s stone and the other members of the family.  There were about 50 people who showed up, which was a nice surprise since we didn’t expect most of them.  After the service everyone came back to Grandma’s house where people had a fine time catching up with each other and sharing funny stories about Uncle Spencer.  The ironic thing is that he was such a character that all the stories people had to tell about him were funny, which made everyone feel better.  Or me, at any rate, which is all the matters, right?  Mm hm.  Saturday night we were so knockered that we ordered lobster rolls from the local restaurant and a couple of my uncles went to pick them up for us.  Good lobster rolls, too, with big chunks of lobster.  Then early to bed.

Sunday was a cold and raw day.  Dice and I went out to see my cousin Joyce’s old farmhouse.  Her mother, aunt and uncle all died within the past few years, and left their huge 18th century farmhouse with dozens of acres to her.  The farmhouse was originally built in 1790-something, and there were some old books there that she wanted Dice to look at.  I’d been to the house before, but not since I was a little kid.  We got a complete tour, which was fabulous, and Dice looked at the (mostly valueless) books.  After that we packed up the car and said goodbye to Grandma and the other members of the family.  Dropped Uncle Scott (who lives in Florida) off at the airport and then went to Concord where we visited Sleepy Hollow cemetery, which has a most excellent Author’s Ridge.  Which is where some real biggies are buried: Nathaniel Hawthorne, Louisa May Alcott, Ralph Waldo Emerson and Henry David Thoreau.  All fantastic additions to my Famous Dead People collection.

We were scheduled to have dinner with my good friends Don and Branden on Newbury Street Sunday night, so we booked ourselves a nice hotel in Copley Square.  We really needed a nice little interlude before heading home, and I wasn’t in the mood to book a cheap ass hotel in a sketchy part of town.  We had a nice dinner with my friends, although the beginnings of a head cold combined with extreme exhaustion from the weekend made me a little light-headed.  Which I guess isn’t all that different from my usual ditzy self, right?  Heh.  We were done with dinner early, which was good because I couldn’t have stayed up very late.  We went back to our hotel room and enjoyed the relative luxury.  Or I should say that I enjoyed it because Dice slept for 12 hours straight.  Although I guess that could also be construed as enjoying it, too.  I myself had trouble sleeping and woke up even more tired than I had been the night before, which was misery.

We got up Monday morning and enjoyed a breakfast at Finagle a Bagel, then went to the Granary Burial Ground, which is right off Boston Common near Downtown Crossing.  We’d been to this cemetery before, but either before we started the Famous Dead People project or when it was closed.  This time we were lucky to find it open and got a bunch of good photos.  Well, good in the fact that they were really famous, but not so good in the fact that I looked terrible.  It was 50 degrees out and raining, and I, in my infinite wisdom, didn’t bring any footwear but flip flops!  If I’d had a scarf for my neck and closed shoes, I would have been SO much happier.  Alas, the Back Bay area isn’t exactly rife with Payless Shoe Sources.  Heh. So I just suffered.

By the time we grabbed our bags and took the T to the airport, it was about 2:00 pm, so we sat in the airport and had a pretty good lunch at Jerry Remy’s.  The food was only okay, although the fries were excellent, but the ambiance was really fantastic.  Welcoming, cool, and calm.  It was a good mood stabilizer for me considering I was pretty miserable.  Then when we got to the gate my seat was right under an air conditioning vent (WHY do they need AC when it’s 50 degrees out, I ask?) and before we boarded the plane I had to go over to the Hudson News and buy Kleenex!  We made it home a few minutes early, which was nice, and after we got ourselves squared away we went to Holy Taco for dinner.  Then by the time we made it home again it was after 10:00 pm, time to go to bed so we could go to work the next morning.

So now you can see why I was so tired yesterday.  I slept well last night, but truthfully I need several more hours of rest before I will feel caught up.  The emotional strain of the weekend really took it’s toll on me, I think.  I’m still battling a slight head cold, that does nothing except just irritate me.  I’m sure it will blow over as soon as I get back into my routine.

05.19.09

Tired. So, so tired.

Posted in travel at 3:05 pm by totaleclipse

So, our trip to MA was SO EXHAUSTING.  I wish that I could lay my head down on my desk and sleep for the next 24 hours.  It’s not like we were up late, either: I don’t think I went to bed past 10:30 pm any night.  It’s just that it took a lot of effort, both physical and emotional.  And then my sufferings were compounded by the fact that I’m an idiot and I neglected to bring any footwear except flip flops, nor any clothing heavier than a long-sleeved shirt, and the last two days were freezing cold (50 degrees) and raining.  And we walked around outside a lot.  So it was unpleasant.  Parts of the weekend were great: seeing my family and friends, good food and change of scenery.  Those are all good things.  Now I just need to recover.  Expect a full report tomorrow.

05.13.09

The secret is: stay too busy for the crazy to come out.

Posted in daily life, family, local restaurants, running at 4:19 pm by totaleclipse

I’m dealing with some internal issues this week, which is my only excuse for neglecting y’all up until now.  I don’t know, a combination of my uncle dying and my own feelings about eating out every night has been taking its toll on me.  On the one hand, I feel badly complaining because 1. I am alive; and 2. my biggest problem is that I get to go out to eat every night.  But on the other hand, I’m sincerely unhappy, which has to count for something.  We’re all works in progress, I guess.

I had a very nice weekend, though. Friday night Dice and I went to Brick Store where I had a tasty, although not very crispy (disappointingly) grilled corned beef sandwich.  Saturday I went for a good 5 mile run and then spent all morning nagging Dice to do yard work while he dragged his feet.  Then I went shopping at Target for some much needed fitness clothes (STANKY) and went to Solstice Cafe where I had a glass of wine and read my book for an hour.  Which was very pleasant.  Saturday night we went to Holy Taco with the Canadians.  I had the pork chimichanga, which was one of the best chimichangas I’ve ever had, stuffed with tender pork and cheese and then deep fried.  We shared churros and sopapillas for dessert, of which the sopapillas were better.  Sunday morning we got up early and headed to Hudson Grille for the Formula 1 race from Barcelona.  I had an omelet that was bordering on bad, but still mostly edible.  Dice had a grilled bagel and fruit, and he was disappointed, but he’s a foreigner who doesn’t understand how bagels are supposed to be so I take his opinion with a grain of salt.  On the way home we went to four (4) separate grocery stores! Started at Whole Foods for produce, then stopped at Publix for various other things, then stopped at Sevananda where we didn’t find the recycled napkins we were looking for, then stopped at ERD Kroger where we instead bought crappy bleached napkins.  Later that evening we went to M&K’s for dinner.  First we had a tour of the properties they’re working on (spectacular) and then we had a lovely dinner on their deck.

Monday morning Dice and I had the day off so we slept in.  Then I went on an epic, 5 hour, 9.2 mile urban hike with the female half of the Canadians.  The weather was PERFECT for a long walk, so we walked through Cabbagetown, over to Inman Park where we had a delightful lunch at Parish. I had the veggie muffaletta with cheese which was fantastic, I definitely recommend it.  You can get it pressed or unpressed; I had it unpressed and thought it was perfect. Then we walked over to L5P, then through Candler Park neighborhood and Candler Park itself, then through Kirkwood, then up Memorial over to Reynoldstown where we stopped at Park Grounds to let Jack frolic with the other dogs while we enjoyed some rehydration.  Then finally crossed back over 20 to Glenwood.  By the time we got home it was mid- to late afternoon and I was so tired I didn’t have even the energy to take a shower immediately. Dice and I spent the rest of the day resting and watching TV, didn’t even go out to eat for once!  It was such a nice interlude, and really helped me gear up for the coming week and weekend.

Yesterday was back to work and our regular routine.  After lifting weights I got stuck chatting with a friend at the gym and ran out of time for the treadmill, so after we went home I went on a really maginificent run around the neighborhood.  The weather was just fabulous, upper 70s, which is my ideal temperature for running.  Then Dice and I went to Midway for dinner and to unofficially play trivia.  Unofficially, because we didn’t show up until almost 9:00 pm and it was halfway over.  The questions they ask are consistently difficult and require discussion, educated guesses and luck.  This is the kind of trivia I like, it’s boring when you always either know or absolutely don’t know the answers.  I had the veggie samosas and tater tots.  The samosas were disappointing, frankly, although I’m not sure why I expected authentic samosas.  They were enormous and really heavily deep-fried.  Even too deep fried for me, which is saying something, so I just ate the centers and left the crust.  The tots were good, though, not as crispy as usual but crispy enough and salty.  If we’d been playing the trivia we would have done decently well.  Maybe someday we’ll make it there on time.  It starts at 8:00 which makes that entirely possible, versus the old trivia we used to go to that started at 7:30 and required us to skip the gym entirely.  We probably won’t make it next week but I’ll push for the week after!

05.08.09

Doing my duty. Yeah, I said “duty.”

Posted in daily life at 1:23 pm by totaleclipse

I took a night off from the debauchery last night to attend my neighborhood association meeting.  While I don’t do a whole heckuva lot for my community other than 1. being an active member of the anti-graffiti team; and 2. generally being a law-abiding citizen, I do feel that I contribute just by attending the meetings and voting on the things that come up.  You’re only eligible to vote if you attend on a semi-regular basis, which is good considering the way in which some people would vote if all they had to do was show up once.  Last month there was quite an important project to vote on and fortunately the people who showed up just to skew the vote one way or another were ineligible.  At any rate, it’s a civic duty and a privilege of our community to be able to influence one’s neighborhood, and I take that seriously.  Thus, it’s not too much of a hardship to put other things on hold for two hours a month.

Plus I needed one night off from going out to eat.  Just ONE night, though.  When I got home from my meeting, however, I had to fend off Dice’s rock-solid argument of “C’MON!” when I rejected his proposal to go to the Glenwood.  But it was 9:30 and all I wanted to do was eat my sugar-free chocolate pudding cup, watch Without a Trace (yes, we still watch that) and go to bed with my book.  Which is exactly what I did.

05.07.09

On-going review of the Shed.

Posted in canadians, daily life, local restaurants at 4:48 pm by totaleclipse

Picking up where I left off.  Last week we went to The Shed for their $3 slider night, and it was so fantastic we vowed to go again this week.  So last night we went along with the Canadians and M&K, and had a very pleasant dinner.  Last week I had the pork schnitzel slider, the chicken salad slider and the pork belly BLT slider.  Of that lot, the schnitzel was the best but only by a hair, the chicken salad slider was fan-f-ing-tastic, and the pork belly BLT only okay.  Last night I had the schnitzel slider, the pork belly BLT slider and the fried chicken slider.  This time, the schnitzel was only okay (HERESY considering how much I LOVE schnitzel), the fried chicken slider was excellent, but the pork belly BLT was divine!  So there was definitely a difference between what I was served each week.  You cannot get out of the Shed for less than $40, it’s just impossible, but we came close to that last night.  The sliders might be cheap but the rest of the menu is on par with the high quality of the Shed.  The wine list continues to please, and along with the slider special they had a $2 beer special, which Dice doesn’t like so he didn’t have.  And the service I always find to be just attentive enough, and never stuffy.  This place continues to be in my top 10 list of restaurants in terms of food quality, price and service.

Just writing aboit it makes me want to go out to eat again, and I can’t tonight.  However, we’ve gone out to eat every single night for the past decade.  Or the last two weeks, whichever is shorter.  It’s like we lasted a month on our $200 per week budget and then went totally nuts!  I’m upset at my own lack of discipline, and about the fact that I can no longer fit into my jeans.  Sigh.

05.06.09

Rest in peace, Uncle Spencer.

Posted in family at 3:22 pm by totaleclipse

Sorry for the long delay, folks.  Over the weekend I learned that one of my uncles had been found dead in his bed by the police on Friday morning.  No one had heard from him in a week, which prompted my grandmother to call the police to make sure he was okay.  Clearly he wasn’t. It breaks my heart to think of him lying in bed too weak to reach the phone, and eventually dying.  And since he was only 54 years old, it was a real shock to my entire family.  We’re all reeling.  And since it’s very close to the third anniversary of Aunt Sandy’s death, we’re all feeling that one afresh as well.  You never get over it, you just learn to live with it.

Here’s a photo of my uncle and me at my wedding almost three years ago.

spencer-and-me1

He was a little weird, but in a good way, and my entire family will miss his good deeds.  He was an artist, a pragmatist and a loner.  He did things for other people without them having to ask for it. And he was just a little bit crazy.  And that’s pretty much all I want to say on the subject.